Comments on: “It was hard.” http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2007/11/08/it-was-hard/ The search for Serenity after years of infertility and now new parenthood. (Read: I have no idea who "me" is anymore, but I won't rest until I find her.) Wed, 16 Dec 2009 22:20:38 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Krista http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2007/11/08/it-was-hard/#comment-7219 Krista Sun, 11 Nov 2007 08:38:34 +0000 http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2007/11/08/it-was-hard/#comment-7219 I feel that way every day. Inferitility is the gift that keeps on sucking but when I look into my little boy's face I know that it was worth it because without it, I wouldn't have "him". So glad you are pregnant Serenity! I feel that way every day. Inferitility is the gift that keeps on sucking but when I look into my little boy’s face I know that it was worth it because without it, I wouldn’t have “him”. So glad you are pregnant Serenity!

]]> By: AOTexas http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2007/11/08/it-was-hard/#comment-7215 AOTexas Sat, 10 Nov 2007 00:22:57 +0000 http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2007/11/08/it-was-hard/#comment-7215 This was a great post. I loved your comment on how all the waiting (and we all know waiting SUCKS) was because Squishy was meant to be yours. I think this is so true. My super-eccentric neighbor from childhood recently told me that she thinks my baby is hiding from me somewhere and when he/she is ready, they will come to me. Unlike most "two-cents" comments I get, I really liked what she was saying. It made sense. There is lots of good that comes from infertility. It's just hard to see when we're in the midst of it all. This was a great post. I loved your comment on how all the waiting (and we all know waiting SUCKS) was because Squishy was meant to be yours. I think this is so true. My super-eccentric neighbor from childhood recently told me that she thinks my baby is hiding from me somewhere and when he/she is ready, they will come to me. Unlike most “two-cents” comments I get, I really liked what she was saying. It made sense. There is lots of good that comes from infertility. It’s just hard to see when we’re in the midst of it all.

]]> By: Nearlydawn http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2007/11/08/it-was-hard/#comment-7208 Nearlydawn Fri, 09 Nov 2007 01:47:31 +0000 http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2007/11/08/it-was-hard/#comment-7208 I've been through a rough few patches in my life, of which infertility is just one. I agree with you, these things, major difficulties, are how you grow and the way you are shaped. I too have grown as a result of the IF struggle... Very well said. Your thoughts sparked a post for me, I think... :) I’ve been through a rough few patches in my life, of which infertility is just one. I agree with you, these things, major difficulties, are how you grow and the way you are shaped.

I too have grown as a result of the IF struggle… Very well said. Your thoughts sparked a post for me, I think… :)

]]> By: Bea http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2007/11/08/it-was-hard/#comment-7207 Bea Fri, 09 Nov 2007 00:44:46 +0000 http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2007/11/08/it-was-hard/#comment-7207 "It was hard." Yes. How do you begin to explain? Great job on the night in - I've added you to the list. And I'm glad you can see the silver lining of your experiences over the last couple of years. Bea “It was hard.” Yes. How do you begin to explain?

Great job on the night in – I’ve added you to the list. And I’m glad you can see the silver lining of your experiences over the last couple of years.

Bea

]]> By: Christiana http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2007/11/08/it-was-hard/#comment-7206 Christiana Thu, 08 Nov 2007 19:12:28 +0000 http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2007/11/08/it-was-hard/#comment-7206 I recently met a woman at church who struggled w/ infertility for over 4 years. She talked about getting her period each month and sitting on the bathroom floor bawling "why, God? Why?" But last Christmas they were able to adopt the sweetest little girl. And she said "the moment I held her for the first time I knew WHY. because THIS was meant to be our child." I know you'll feel the same about Squishy. I recently met a woman at church who struggled w/ infertility for over 4 years. She talked about getting her period each month and sitting on the bathroom floor bawling “why, God? Why?” But last Christmas they were able to adopt the sweetest little girl. And she said “the moment I held her for the first time I knew WHY. because THIS was meant to be our child.” I know you’ll feel the same about Squishy.

]]> By: Cibele http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2007/11/08/it-was-hard/#comment-7205 Cibele Thu, 08 Nov 2007 19:10:44 +0000 http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2007/11/08/it-was-hard/#comment-7205 well said... I feel the exact same way! well said… I feel the exact same way!

]]> By: christina http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2007/11/08/it-was-hard/#comment-7204 christina Thu, 08 Nov 2007 14:31:07 +0000 http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2007/11/08/it-was-hard/#comment-7204 "Because how could I explain everything that went along with it? The pain of failing again and again? The fear that we would never be parents? The guilt that I had maybe done something and was being punished? The longing for a baby of our own? The acceptance of being infertile and needing medical intervention? The wonderful support system I found in my sisters of the blogging community?" um, that sums up EXACTLY how i feel. i'm sure it does for a lot of us. although, getting those sentiments out would take me about 5 times more words and four posts. i don't like telling people how hard it is either. why ruin them? and i HATE pity. and stupid comments. infertility has been so good for me. it has definitely made me a softer person. you won't care how(of course the scar will be there but still) you got there when you're holding the squish in your arms. and that's a good reminder to us all. xoxo “Because how could I explain everything that went along with it? The pain of failing again and again? The fear that we would never be parents? The guilt that I had maybe done something and was being punished? The longing for a baby of our own? The acceptance of being infertile and needing medical intervention? The wonderful support system I found in my sisters of the blogging community?”

um, that sums up EXACTLY how i feel. i’m sure it does for a lot of us. although, getting those sentiments out would take me about 5 times more words and four posts.

i don’t like telling people how hard it is either. why ruin them? and i HATE pity. and stupid comments.

infertility has been so good for me. it has definitely made me a softer person.

you won’t care how(of course the scar will be there but still) you got there when you’re holding the squish in your arms. and that’s a good reminder to us all.

xoxo

]]> By: Somewhat Ordinary http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2007/11/08/it-was-hard/#comment-7203 Somewhat Ordinary Thu, 08 Nov 2007 14:18:07 +0000 http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2007/11/08/it-was-hard/#comment-7203 I feel the exact same way! I feel the exact same way!

]]> By: andbabybmakesthree http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2007/11/08/it-was-hard/#comment-7202 andbabybmakesthree Thu, 08 Nov 2007 13:45:39 +0000 http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2007/11/08/it-was-hard/#comment-7202 I agree 100% that this is the child you were meant to have, and your path to this point has led you to him/her. I think you'll feel this even stronger, even though it might not feel possible, once your baby is here. :) D I agree 100% that this is the child you were meant to have, and your path to this point has led you to him/her. I think you’ll feel this even stronger, even though it might not feel possible, once your baby is here. :)

D

]]> By: Cece http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2007/11/08/it-was-hard/#comment-7201 Cece Thu, 08 Nov 2007 13:34:54 +0000 http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2007/11/08/it-was-hard/#comment-7201 Damn - that is a really good point. Youa re going to laugh at this, but I have been thinking 'Why doesn't that pregnant bitch (and I mean that in the nicest way, like yo bitch, want to go to the movies?) post anymore'. I had totally forgotten that you moved over to WordPress. Now I have to go catch up. Damn – that is a really good point.

Youa re going to laugh at this, but I have been thinking ‘Why doesn’t that pregnant bitch (and I mean that in the nicest way, like yo bitch, want to go to the movies?) post anymore’. I had totally forgotten that you moved over to WordPress.

Now I have to go catch up.

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