Comments on: The daycare conundrum. http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2008/01/03/the-daycare-conundrum/ The search for Serenity after years of infertility and now new parenthood. (Read: I have no idea who "me" is anymore, but I won't rest until I find her.) Wed, 16 Dec 2009 22:20:38 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Jackie http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2008/01/03/the-daycare-conundrum/#comment-7738 Jackie Fri, 04 Jan 2008 04:17:53 +0000 http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2008/01/03/the-daycare-conundrum/#comment-7738 I so understand your position regarding daycare-the calling to arrange, I mean. I need to do the same. So let's make a pact to just do it. And get it done. I so understand your position regarding daycare-the calling to arrange, I mean. I need to do the same. So let’s make a pact to just do it. And get it done.

]]> By: Bea http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2008/01/03/the-daycare-conundrum/#comment-7736 Bea Fri, 04 Jan 2008 00:57:16 +0000 http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2008/01/03/the-daycare-conundrum/#comment-7736 Hope your appointment goes (went?) well. I know what you mean about daycare. You have to actually acknowledge the *reality* of the situation enough to pick up the phone and ask those questions. It's surreal. But it sounds like you'll have to do it, so good luck! Bea Hope your appointment goes (went?) well.

I know what you mean about daycare. You have to actually acknowledge the *reality* of the situation enough to pick up the phone and ask those questions. It’s surreal.

But it sounds like you’ll have to do it, so good luck!

Bea

]]> By: Christine http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2008/01/03/the-daycare-conundrum/#comment-7735 Christine Fri, 04 Jan 2008 00:54:56 +0000 http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2008/01/03/the-daycare-conundrum/#comment-7735 When I "retired" to raise our two oldest (17 months apart) I decided that I would do home daycare and take a very small amount of kids. I was stunned at the amount of people that called. Some of them were bizarre even on the phone. I finally decided that I would only accept babies/kids that were referred by people I knew. It worked out great because the strange people were weeded out by "friends" and I had a blast. All of the kids I watched had moms that thought like me and had the same ideas about what is a good environment. My suggestion would be to find someone that is staying home with their kids anyway and wants to make an income to supplement the family. I was able to give individual attention to all the kids because I never had more than 4 here at a time. I know that people like Nancy above may not have had a good experience but my moms knew they could pop in ANY time for a visit or if they were feeling uneasy for any reason. I can't tell you how many times the kids didn't want to leave when they were being picked up. Your best option would be to talk to a lot of other people and see who is happy with someone in your area. When I “retired” to raise our two oldest (17 months apart) I decided that I would do home daycare and take a very small amount of kids. I was stunned at the amount of people that called. Some of them were bizarre even on the phone. I finally decided that I would only accept babies/kids that were referred by people I knew. It worked out great because the strange people were weeded out by “friends” and I had a blast. All of the kids I watched had moms that thought like me and had the same ideas about what is a good environment.

My suggestion would be to find someone that is staying home with their kids anyway and wants to make an income to supplement the family. I was able to give individual attention to all the kids because I never had more than 4 here at a time. I know that people like Nancy above may not have had a good experience but my moms knew they could pop in ANY time for a visit or if they were feeling uneasy for any reason. I can’t tell you how many times the kids didn’t want to leave when they were being picked up. Your best option would be to talk to a lot of other people and see who is happy with someone in your area.

]]> By: Nancy http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2008/01/03/the-daycare-conundrum/#comment-7734 Nancy Thu, 03 Jan 2008 23:27:25 +0000 http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2008/01/03/the-daycare-conundrum/#comment-7734 I understand why you can't, but really - you need to. I went through an inhome daycare (will never inhome it again, just not enough checks and balances, even though I never felt threatened) and 2 centers before I found one I love with all my heart. There is an over a year waiting list now and the moment I'm pregnant, I'll be on that list (although I think since my kids are there now, I get preferential treatment). Anywho, my whole point is I got lucky. I am in the best place ever imaginable and I only pay $1,500/month. ~swoon~. I'm SO lucky. You'll want to be lucky too. Believe me! I understand why you can’t, but really – you need to. I went through an inhome daycare (will never inhome it again, just not enough checks and balances, even though I never felt threatened) and 2 centers before I found one I love with all my heart. There is an over a year waiting list now and the moment I’m pregnant, I’ll be on that list (although I think since my kids are there now, I get preferential treatment). Anywho, my whole point is I got lucky. I am in the best place ever imaginable and I only pay $1,500/month. ~swoon~. I’m SO lucky. You’ll want to be lucky too. Believe me!

]]> By: Cibele http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2008/01/03/the-daycare-conundrum/#comment-7733 Cibele Thu, 03 Jan 2008 22:27:11 +0000 http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2008/01/03/the-daycare-conundrum/#comment-7733 I keep telling myself: once I pass this stage I'll start taking care of things (nursery, day care, birth classes) My first goal was 12 weeks , than 20, now I am waiting on the level 2 sono... I think that i'll never be too confident to just assume that the baby will be here and I need to worry up and get ready! Good luck on trying to find a day care! PS: Thanks for the kind words of support on my blog. it means a lot to me I keep telling myself: once I pass this stage I’ll start taking care of things (nursery, day care, birth classes) My first goal was 12 weeks , than 20, now I am waiting on the level 2 sono… I think that i’ll never be too confident to just assume that the baby will be here and I need to worry up and get ready!
Good luck on trying to find a day care!
PS: Thanks for the kind words of support on my blog. it means a lot to me

]]> By: babystep http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2008/01/03/the-daycare-conundrum/#comment-7732 babystep Thu, 03 Jan 2008 22:26:59 +0000 http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2008/01/03/the-daycare-conundrum/#comment-7732 I was just talking to my friend about this. She adopted a baby 3 months ago and has to go back to work next month. She had no notice before she brought the baby home, so she put herself on the waitlist for daycare, but the lists are 9 months long!! She also told me that getting a nanny 8 hours a day (in the home) is about $3200 a month. YIKES. I was sitting there wondering how we could even afford a baby even if we had one! I was just talking to my friend about this. She adopted a baby 3 months ago and has to go back to work next month. She had no notice before she brought the baby home, so she put herself on the waitlist for daycare, but the lists are 9 months long!! She also told me that getting a nanny 8 hours a day (in the home) is about $3200 a month. YIKES. I was sitting there wondering how we could even afford a baby even if we had one!

]]> By: christina(apronstrings) http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2008/01/03/the-daycare-conundrum/#comment-7731 christina(apronstrings) Thu, 03 Jan 2008 17:57:44 +0000 http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2008/01/03/the-daycare-conundrum/#comment-7731 i used to really suffer with begining cases that i thought i might lose. i mean, i would put it off until the last minute. and dreaded it. when i talked to my psychologist about it (who i love, BTW) she bascially said to quit worrying about it...and just do it. tht oftentimes we spend to much time worrying about the why instead of just forcing ourselves to do it. the rest will come. that's what i did, and it worked. so that's my assvice. ; ) i used to really suffer with begining cases that i thought i might lose. i mean, i would put it off until the last minute. and dreaded it. when i talked to my psychologist about it (who i love, BTW) she bascially said to quit worrying about it…and just do it. tht oftentimes we spend to much time worrying about the why instead of just forcing ourselves to do it. the rest will come.

that’s what i did, and it worked. so that’s my assvice. ; )

]]> By: Nicole http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2008/01/03/the-daycare-conundrum/#comment-7730 Nicole Thu, 03 Jan 2008 17:05:00 +0000 http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2008/01/03/the-daycare-conundrum/#comment-7730 When I got pregnant the first time around and before the miscarriage, I put my name on a waiting list at a local daycare. Now I am pregnant, a lot further along, and I can't bring myself to put my name back on the waiting list. Ah, magical thinking, it's so dangerous. When I got pregnant the first time around and before the miscarriage, I put my name on a waiting list at a local daycare. Now I am pregnant, a lot further along, and I can’t bring myself to put my name back on the waiting list. Ah, magical thinking, it’s so dangerous.

]]> By: chicklet http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2008/01/03/the-daycare-conundrum/#comment-7729 chicklet Thu, 03 Jan 2008 16:28:59 +0000 http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2008/01/03/the-daycare-conundrum/#comment-7729 Mary Poppins - maybe she could come around and deal with daycare for you, nurseries for others, and babies for others. Cuz you know, it's Mary! She's good like that... Mary Poppins – maybe she could come around and deal with daycare for you, nurseries for others, and babies for others. Cuz you know, it’s Mary! She’s good like that…

]]> By: Christiana http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2008/01/03/the-daycare-conundrum/#comment-7727 Christiana Thu, 03 Jan 2008 14:50:04 +0000 http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2008/01/03/the-daycare-conundrum/#comment-7727 I'm having the same issue with calling the pediatrician for some reason. I can totally see how you would struggle with calling the daycares - but you'll be kicking yourself come, say June, if you don't! :-) Good luck. I guess I better go look up the pediatrician numbers I need to call... I’m having the same issue with calling the pediatrician for some reason. I can totally see how you would struggle with calling the daycares – but you’ll be kicking yourself come, say June, if you don’t! :-) Good luck. I guess I better go look up the pediatrician numbers I need to call…

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