Comments on: Well, I did it. http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2008/01/04/well-i-did-it/ The search for Serenity after years of infertility and now new parenthood. (Read: I have no idea who "me" is anymore, but I won't rest until I find her.) Sat, 14 Nov 2009 17:15:22 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Kath http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2008/01/04/well-i-did-it/#comment-7757 Kath Mon, 07 Jan 2008 00:15:57 +0000 http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2008/01/04/well-i-did-it/#comment-7757 Dear Serenity, Happy New Year! After being away for ages, I am finally back and fully caught up now. It's so good to see everything progressing so well for you -- it's wonderful that you're feeling Squishy so consistently now. How that must help you to realize that this is real, when all your infertile instincts are still understandably saying it's not. (I had just those instincts to go on for the longest time, as my anterior placenta kept me from feeling Banana's movements until well in the twenties.) It messes with your head, doesn't it, this state? Good for you for calling about day care. I can just imagine how daunting that prospect is, and was similarly paralyzed when it came to any call to do with after the birth. (Midwife? Pediatrician? Paperwork? Inquiring about part-time day care options? All those things made me break out in a cold sweat, and I confess that now, more than three months after the birth, I still haven't called about day care.) I hope and trust you will find the option that's right for you and Squishy. Yes, time speeds up incredibly, doesn't it? So much still to do, so many preparations -- practical, emotional and mental -- begging to be made, so little time for anything. Why can't the first trimester be the quick one???? Dear Serenity, Happy New Year! After being away for ages, I am finally back and fully caught up now. It’s so good to see everything progressing so well for you — it’s wonderful that you’re feeling Squishy so consistently now. How that must help you to realize that this is real, when all your infertile instincts are still understandably saying it’s not. (I had just those instincts to go on for the longest time, as my anterior placenta kept me from feeling Banana’s movements until well in the twenties.) It messes with your head, doesn’t it, this state?

Good for you for calling about day care. I can just imagine how daunting that prospect is, and was similarly paralyzed when it came to any call to do with after the birth. (Midwife? Pediatrician? Paperwork? Inquiring about part-time day care options? All those things made me break out in a cold sweat, and I confess that now, more than three months after the birth, I still haven’t called about day care.) I hope and trust you will find the option that’s right for you and Squishy.

Yes, time speeds up incredibly, doesn’t it? So much still to do, so many preparations — practical, emotional and mental — begging to be made, so little time for anything. Why can’t the first trimester be the quick one????

]]> By: peep http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2008/01/04/well-i-did-it/#comment-7756 peep Sun, 06 Jan 2008 23:21:11 +0000 http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2008/01/04/well-i-did-it/#comment-7756 Your excitement in your post made me smile. I am so happy for you. Your excitement in your post made me smile. I am so happy for you.

]]> By: drownedgirl http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2008/01/04/well-i-did-it/#comment-7755 drownedgirl Sun, 06 Jan 2008 09:45:05 +0000 http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2008/01/04/well-i-did-it/#comment-7755 I hope you don't mind me saying that there is some evidence that a childminder (as we call them in the UK) ie an at home/family environment is better than a nursery, whatever facilities it may have, for a small child (esp for boys under 3) xx I hope you don’t mind me saying that there is some evidence that a childminder (as we call them in the UK) ie an at home/family environment is better than a nursery, whatever facilities it may have, for a small child (esp for boys under 3)

xx

]]> By: thalya http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2008/01/04/well-i-did-it/#comment-7754 thalya Sun, 06 Jan 2008 09:42:29 +0000 http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2008/01/04/well-i-did-it/#comment-7754 Hey serenity, really glad it looks as if this will work out for you. HOwever, one thing I don't understand. Why are you so much happier with daycare than a single person caring for him, esp since it sounds as if he'd be the only baby she's taking care of? Babies don't care about other babies, although they are v interested in older children, and a lot of the research on attachment says that the critical thing is that babies have a single consistent primary caregiver, not multiple ones. What is it about daycare which is so much more appealing? Hey serenity, really glad it looks as if this will work out for you. HOwever, one thing I don’t understand. Why are you so much happier with daycare than a single person caring for him, esp since it sounds as if he’d be the only baby she’s taking care of? Babies don’t care about other babies, although they are v interested in older children, and a lot of the research on attachment says that the critical thing is that babies have a single consistent primary caregiver, not multiple ones. What is it about daycare which is so much more appealing?

]]> By: babystep http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2008/01/04/well-i-did-it/#comment-7753 babystep Sun, 06 Jan 2008 02:31:23 +0000 http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2008/01/04/well-i-did-it/#comment-7753 I have to admit, your descriptions of baby inside you are SO enticing, I get SO envious. I hope to someday experience what you are going through... Good for you for calling daycare places! I have to admit, your descriptions of baby inside you are SO enticing, I get SO envious. I hope to someday experience what you are going through…
Good for you for calling daycare places!

]]> By: Caro http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2008/01/04/well-i-did-it/#comment-7752 Caro Sat, 05 Jan 2008 18:37:37 +0000 http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2008/01/04/well-i-did-it/#comment-7752 Yay for the daycare options. Yay for the daycare options.

]]> By: june http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2008/01/04/well-i-did-it/#comment-7751 june Sat, 05 Jan 2008 11:03:59 +0000 http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2008/01/04/well-i-did-it/#comment-7751 I've been lurking your blog a while now, I love it. I'm so thrilled that you have two great care options for your little one, and even more thrilled at the progression of your pregnancy. Mine has gone by really fast, but this last week seems to be in a slow motion time warp (I'm due monday). I’ve been lurking your blog a while now, I love it. I’m so thrilled that you have two great care options for your little one, and even more thrilled at the progression of your pregnancy. Mine has gone by really fast, but this last week seems to be in a slow motion time warp (I’m due monday).

]]> By: Bea http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2008/01/04/well-i-did-it/#comment-7750 Bea Sat, 05 Jan 2008 04:03:38 +0000 http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2008/01/04/well-i-did-it/#comment-7750 The first step is the biggest hurdle! And yeah, I keep expecting this pregnancy to take at least six years or something, too. It's just the timeframe my mind's used to. Bea The first step is the biggest hurdle!

And yeah, I keep expecting this pregnancy to take at least six years or something, too. It’s just the timeframe my mind’s used to.

Bea

]]> By: chicklet http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2008/01/04/well-i-did-it/#comment-7749 chicklet Sat, 05 Jan 2008 03:16:41 +0000 http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2008/01/04/well-i-did-it/#comment-7749 I love this post. I love the way the daycare thing went but mostly I love how you describe infertile time, and how we get used to the crap, and how horribly slow it is. Congrats on a very very good day with some hope! I love this post. I love the way the daycare thing went but mostly I love how you describe infertile time, and how we get used to the crap, and how horribly slow it is. Congrats on a very very good day with some hope!

]]> By: Jenni http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2008/01/04/well-i-did-it/#comment-7747 Jenni Sat, 05 Jan 2008 01:18:54 +0000 http://serenitynowinfertile.wordpress.com/2008/01/04/well-i-did-it/#comment-7747 New to your blog, but know you from TTC and now DFM. I know it seems funny now, but that birth control speech is worth a listen. Take it from me - 3.0 is due when my twins will be 21 months. My OB laughed at me when I called her to tell her. Apparently, infertility - even the hopeless kind where your first RE tells you you'll never have kids with your husband, and it takes 2 IVF cycles to get a live baby or two - is not the most effective birth control. Who knew?!? New to your blog, but know you from TTC and now DFM. I know it seems funny now, but that birth control speech is worth a listen. Take it from me – 3.0 is due when my twins will be 21 months. My OB laughed at me when I called her to tell her. Apparently, infertility – even the hopeless kind where your first RE tells you you’ll never have kids with your husband, and it takes 2 IVF cycles to get a live baby or two – is not the most effective birth control. Who knew?!?

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