Potty Progress (I Think).August 9, 2012 at 9:28 am | Posted in Battles (aka: toddlerhood), motherhood | 12 Comments
With the daily miralax, we got to a point where Lucky put together MULTIPLE weeks of dry days. Not even kidding, I think the longest we went was 10 days. Which, honestly, is huge for us.
So the pediatrician told us we could start weaning him off the daily dosage. Which is what we did – we did every other day.
And the accidents have been happening, more and more.
And a couple weeks ago, we had an AWFUL, AWFUL week of potty issues. Multiple accidents in a morning. He’d be wet after a half hour in the car.
So, of course, we tried to get him to use the bathroom more. And he’d say no, he didn’t HAVE to go.
And then, 20 seconds later, he’d be wet.
He was defiant. We were angry. Charlie and I were, quite honestly, at our wits end. All this progress for nothing – right back where we started. Again.
We did EVERYTHING: sticker charts, M&Ms, having him clean up after himself, not saying anything, setting the timer for every hour like we did in the early days of PT. We played games (his favorite: pretending the bathroom was a portapotty and someone was knocking on the door, wanting to come in), we made it serious. We jumped and clapped when he was dry, we didn’t say ANYTHING when he was wet, we were neutral, we let our frustration be known (I lectured. No joke. I talked for about 10 minutes before Lucky said, Mommy, I am NOT talking about accidents ANY MORE. I am talking about COOL things. Like trains. Do you like trains, Mommy? Are they cool? Sigh.)
Finally, we gave. Resolved that we would have wet pants until he was in college. Because we thought he was being defiant, and really, we have NO CONTROL over whether he uses – or doesn’t – the potty.
Until this exchange:
Lucky, use the potty.
But, Mommy… I DON’T HAVE TO GO!
Lucky. YOU’RE WET.
But Mommy, I didn’t EVEN KNOW I WAS WET!
Hard to tell what’s wishful thinking with him nowadays, whenever he disagrees with something we say, he’ll unequivocally declare the opposite to be true.
But when he told me he didn’t KNOW he was wet? Warning bell sounded in my head.
Whenever we asked him/told him/incented him to use the bathroom, I think he would push a little to see if he HAD to go. And he’d wet himself, and STILL not realize he had to go.
Maybe it wasn’t defiance. Maybe it was physical. Maybe he was constipated again.
So we started him on the daily miralax again. Just in case.
And sure enough, after two weeks, this week he’s had one day where he’s had an accident.
We don’t have to remind him to use the bathroom – seems like he’s starting to go when he realizes he HAS to go.
I really think this potty stuff is a result of constipation. Which, I swear, I NEVER would have even THOUGHT about if it weren’t for my blogger friend Rachel emailing me the article that talks about the link between the two. (Seriously, I owe you one, girl!!!)
From what I’ve read, it might take six month of miralax for his colon to shrink enough that we can say goodbye to the potty issues forever. Charlie and I have decided, at the very least, that we need an entire month with no accidents before we even discuss stopping it.
And I have to say. There’s NOT a lot of stuff out there for parents of kids who have this issue. I can’t tell you how many google searches I’ve run to find potty issues that AREN’T a result of new training and/or regression.
So I’m putting this out there in the hopes that someone, someday, might be helped by our knowledge.
And in the meantime, crossing my fingers that this will go away for good. Because it’s been a year. And I am so, SO tired of pee.